Our relationships can be repetitive patterns of our attitudes and behaviors. Attitudes, values and beliefs are learned during childhood from parents, family members, role models and/or other caregivers. Examples include:
| · prioritizing work over family | · difficulty having fun |
| · over-dependence on others | · avoiding conflict |
| · too independent | · fear of failure |
| · excessive spending | · fear of closeness |
| · care-taking | · keeping grudges |
Stress and emotional management skills are also learned. Over time, some of them can become addictive. These addictive qualities may include eating habits, having a drink or two, drug use, gambling or shopping. Addictive qualities not only impact the “doer” but also the partner and/or the entire family.
As we begin to see how our previous attitudes and behaviors impact our relationships we need to move toward finding a new balance in our lives. Re-balance becomes a big part of the solution. How do we accomplish this? By implementing new attitudes and behaviors into our relationships. Examples include:
| · open communication | · clear boundaries |
| · humor | · acceptance of self/others |
| · resolving conflict | · mistakes are accepted |
| · encouraging personal growth | · respecting privacy |
| · safety with closeness | · trustfulness |
Growth can happen.
For more information or to schedule an appointment please contact our Intake Coordinator.
(847) 637-6685 or e-mail at intake@brandttherapyclinics.com
